A Parent's Guide to Chosen
Chapter 1: An Introduction to Confirmation
Confirmation is a sacramental outpouring of the Holy Spirit that leaves a permanent imprint on the soul, completes Christian initiation, and empowers us to be witnesses to Christ (see CCC 1.302-1305).
Many people mistakenly see Confirmation as a teen's "graduation" from religious education, as merely a cultural passage into maturity, or as an opportunity to choose whether or not to remain Catholic. None of these views is consistent with the teaching of the Church on this powerful sacrament. Confirmation is not merely a symbolic ceremony or a rite of passage. While it is true that a candidate chooses whether to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation and, with the reception of the sacrament, takes a step toward maturity (and, yes, mandatory catechism classes often do come to an end, none of these facts captures the heart of the meaning of the Sacrament of Confirmation.
What happens at Confirmation?
As with every sacrament, Confirmation does not merely symbolize a spiritual reality—it actually effects what it signifies. In Confirmation, our senses are fully engaged: We see the bishop's hand raise in anointing. The candidate feels and smells the sacred chi-ism, or sacramental oil, and hears the bishop proclaim, "Be sealed with the Gift of the Holy Spirit."
What we physically see., hear, feel, and smell in Confirmation is an anointing, a seaIing with the Holy Spirit. These visible elements are not merely symbolic: Working through what is visible and sensory, the same Holy Spirit who was poured. out upon the apostles at Pentecost makes a mark on the newly confirmed person's soul.
When the Holy Spirit descended upon the apostles as they prayed together at Pentecost (see Acts 1-2), the effects of this miracle were immediately apparent. The apostles proclaimed their faith fearlessly. The sacramental presence of the Holy Spirit in their souls emboldened them to speak the truth. The Catechism of the Catholic Church lists five effects of Confirmation (see CCC 1303):
What is the relationship between Baptism and Confirmation?
Confirmation "completes" the graces we received at Baptism (see CCC 1304), when we became adopted Sons and daughters of God. Confirmation confirms that we are part of God's family and leads us to focus on what we have been called to do as children of God: to be living witnesses of God's love in the
world.
In Confirmation, we receive the power to make a stand for Christ and his Church, as well as special gifts to help us serve God and the Church in particular ways. Through the sacrament, we are also "sealed" for God-,our bond with him, as well as with the whole family of God, is strengthened. All these graces help us to shift our focus from interior formation (which began at Baptism) to exterior proclamation, giving us courage to witness to the Faith in our words and actions (see CCC 1305). Confirmation is sometimes called "the sacrament of the martyrs" because the word martyr derives from the Greek word meaning "witness." The martyrs witnessed to the truth of the gospel—no matter what the cost.
Many people think, "I was confirmed ... and none of that happened to me." This seeming disconnect between the Church's teaching on Confirmation and people's personal experiences of it reveals an important truth about the sacraments: While sacramental grace can work powerfully, we must be ready to receive the gifts the Spirit wants to give us.
This reality is clear in Jesus' parable of the sower (Mark 4:1-20): Seed is scattered in many places, but it flourishes only in the right kind of soil.
The goal of the Chosen program is to help your son or daughter to be truly open and prepared so he or she may experience the grace of God that the Holy Spirit releases in this powerful sacrament. Being open and prepared necessarily involves growth in understanding, a sincere acceptance of Christ and his Church, a clear conscience, and a soul in the state of grace.
How does the Chosen program work to prepare my child for Confirmation?
Chosen will lead your child on a journey through the Catholic Faith in all its richness and vitality. Over the course of twenty-four engaging and powerful lessons, your son or daughter will not only learn about the Faith, but will be invited to experience a personal encounter with Jesus Christ. Using a combination of videos, workbook material, and group discussions, the goal of the Chosen program is to win over the hearts of youth at this critical time in their lives and to keep them firmly planted in the faith community of the Church.
The video presentations in this program feature some of the top youth ministers in the Church today and have been filmed on location throughout the country and internationally. A dynamic and engaging workbook is used throughout the program and contains at-home pages and activities that are an essential part of the Chosen learning experience. As the candidate's parent., you play an essential role in guiding your child through this process.
Part 2 of this Parent's Guide ("Chosen Conversation Starters") provides a list of the lessons as well as "Conversation Starters"—questions you can ask your child to engage and encourage him or her during this exciting journey.
What is my role as a parent in Confirmation?
Your role is indispensable. While your child's sponsor will help him or her prepare for Confirmation and offer encouragement to continue to grow in faith, as parents you are your child's "primary educators in the faith This role began at your child's Baptism and it continues throughout his or her adolescence and young adult life. The Catechism calls the family "the domestic Church" (CCC 1658) because it is primarily within the family that your child will learn how to live the teachings of Jesus, which lead to eternal life.
The two most important ways you can help form your child in the Faith are to practice your faith and to pray. Regardless of your faith practice up to this point, God is calling you now to a deeper relationship with him and the Church. It has been said that the Church is not a museum of saints, but a hospital for sinners. So do not be afraid if you do not feel up to the task to leading your child closer to Christ. If necessary, renew your commitment to participate more fully in the life of the Church, through attending Mass every Sunday; going to Confess' regularly, engaging in some form of service, and praying consistently for an increase of God's grace in your life and the life of your family.
Confirmation is a sacramental outpouring of the Holy Spirit that leaves a permanent imprint on the soul, completes Christian initiation, and empowers us to be witnesses to Christ (see CCC 1.302-1305).
Many people mistakenly see Confirmation as a teen's "graduation" from religious education, as merely a cultural passage into maturity, or as an opportunity to choose whether or not to remain Catholic. None of these views is consistent with the teaching of the Church on this powerful sacrament. Confirmation is not merely a symbolic ceremony or a rite of passage. While it is true that a candidate chooses whether to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation and, with the reception of the sacrament, takes a step toward maturity (and, yes, mandatory catechism classes often do come to an end, none of these facts captures the heart of the meaning of the Sacrament of Confirmation.
What happens at Confirmation?
As with every sacrament, Confirmation does not merely symbolize a spiritual reality—it actually effects what it signifies. In Confirmation, our senses are fully engaged: We see the bishop's hand raise in anointing. The candidate feels and smells the sacred chi-ism, or sacramental oil, and hears the bishop proclaim, "Be sealed with the Gift of the Holy Spirit."
What we physically see., hear, feel, and smell in Confirmation is an anointing, a seaIing with the Holy Spirit. These visible elements are not merely symbolic: Working through what is visible and sensory, the same Holy Spirit who was poured. out upon the apostles at Pentecost makes a mark on the newly confirmed person's soul.
When the Holy Spirit descended upon the apostles as they prayed together at Pentecost (see Acts 1-2), the effects of this miracle were immediately apparent. The apostles proclaimed their faith fearlessly. The sacramental presence of the Holy Spirit in their souls emboldened them to speak the truth. The Catechism of the Catholic Church lists five effects of Confirmation (see CCC 1303):
- It affirms our identity as children of God ("divine filiation").
- It unites us more firmly to Christ.
- It increases in us the Gifts of the Holy Spirit.
- It strengthens our bond with the Church.
- It strengthens us to spread and defend the Faith by our words and actions, to be fearless witnesses to Christ and the power of the cross.
What is the relationship between Baptism and Confirmation?
Confirmation "completes" the graces we received at Baptism (see CCC 1304), when we became adopted Sons and daughters of God. Confirmation confirms that we are part of God's family and leads us to focus on what we have been called to do as children of God: to be living witnesses of God's love in the
world.
In Confirmation, we receive the power to make a stand for Christ and his Church, as well as special gifts to help us serve God and the Church in particular ways. Through the sacrament, we are also "sealed" for God-,our bond with him, as well as with the whole family of God, is strengthened. All these graces help us to shift our focus from interior formation (which began at Baptism) to exterior proclamation, giving us courage to witness to the Faith in our words and actions (see CCC 1305). Confirmation is sometimes called "the sacrament of the martyrs" because the word martyr derives from the Greek word meaning "witness." The martyrs witnessed to the truth of the gospel—no matter what the cost.
Many people think, "I was confirmed ... and none of that happened to me." This seeming disconnect between the Church's teaching on Confirmation and people's personal experiences of it reveals an important truth about the sacraments: While sacramental grace can work powerfully, we must be ready to receive the gifts the Spirit wants to give us.
This reality is clear in Jesus' parable of the sower (Mark 4:1-20): Seed is scattered in many places, but it flourishes only in the right kind of soil.
The goal of the Chosen program is to help your son or daughter to be truly open and prepared so he or she may experience the grace of God that the Holy Spirit releases in this powerful sacrament. Being open and prepared necessarily involves growth in understanding, a sincere acceptance of Christ and his Church, a clear conscience, and a soul in the state of grace.
How does the Chosen program work to prepare my child for Confirmation?
Chosen will lead your child on a journey through the Catholic Faith in all its richness and vitality. Over the course of twenty-four engaging and powerful lessons, your son or daughter will not only learn about the Faith, but will be invited to experience a personal encounter with Jesus Christ. Using a combination of videos, workbook material, and group discussions, the goal of the Chosen program is to win over the hearts of youth at this critical time in their lives and to keep them firmly planted in the faith community of the Church.
The video presentations in this program feature some of the top youth ministers in the Church today and have been filmed on location throughout the country and internationally. A dynamic and engaging workbook is used throughout the program and contains at-home pages and activities that are an essential part of the Chosen learning experience. As the candidate's parent., you play an essential role in guiding your child through this process.
Part 2 of this Parent's Guide ("Chosen Conversation Starters") provides a list of the lessons as well as "Conversation Starters"—questions you can ask your child to engage and encourage him or her during this exciting journey.
What is my role as a parent in Confirmation?
Your role is indispensable. While your child's sponsor will help him or her prepare for Confirmation and offer encouragement to continue to grow in faith, as parents you are your child's "primary educators in the faith This role began at your child's Baptism and it continues throughout his or her adolescence and young adult life. The Catechism calls the family "the domestic Church" (CCC 1658) because it is primarily within the family that your child will learn how to live the teachings of Jesus, which lead to eternal life.
The two most important ways you can help form your child in the Faith are to practice your faith and to pray. Regardless of your faith practice up to this point, God is calling you now to a deeper relationship with him and the Church. It has been said that the Church is not a museum of saints, but a hospital for sinners. So do not be afraid if you do not feel up to the task to leading your child closer to Christ. If necessary, renew your commitment to participate more fully in the life of the Church, through attending Mass every Sunday; going to Confess' regularly, engaging in some form of service, and praying consistently for an increase of God's grace in your life and the life of your family.
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Dinner Date
If you are having trouble going deeper in conversation with your son or daughter, invite him or her out to dinner—no siblings, friends, or distractions allowed. Make a point of using this opportunity to share your views about life and faith with your teen and to communicate how much you love him or her. Put It in Writing Little things matter. Make your child's day better by writing an affirming note and slipping it into his or her school bag. He or she may not acknowledge it, but your love will be noticed and make an impact that is worth the investment. Know Thy Child How aware are you of your teen's "online life"? Consider "friending" him or her on Facebook or "following" him or her on Twitter to add another dimension to your communication. |
Chapter 2 Preparing Your Son or Daughter for Confirmation
Two of the most important things you can do to help your son or daughter prepare for the sacrament. are:
1) Be personally committed to prayer.
2) Impress upon your child, by word and example, the importance of participating in the sacramental life of the Church. The principal way we participate in the Church's sacramental life is through regular reception of the Eucharist and the
Sacrament of Reconciliation
How can I encourage my child to grow in faith at home?
Regular family prayer time is important. Simple family prayers, such as grace before meals and a weekly Rosary, can have a powerful impact on your child's faith formation. The witness of St. Monica, who spent many years praying for the conversion of her wayward son, Augustine (later St. Augustine), reveals the power of a parent's prayers and participation in the sacraments.
Sometimes, though, getting your child to do the "basics" can be challenging. One effective way to encourage your child's faith is to appeal to his or her natural desire for independence and social connection. Suggest that your son or daughter become involved in youth ministry; this will place him or her in a spiritually uplifting environment and help deepen his or her life of faith.
Your role as a parent in your child's faith formation does not end with his or her Confirmation. Your prayers and personal example can exert a powerful impact on your child for his or her whole life. Accept the challenge—and it is a challenge—to establish a family habit of discussing faith, morals, and spiritual growth.
Why do we need to attend Mass every week?
Having a parent who is personally committed to prayer and is participating in the sacramental life of the Church can have a profound effect on a teenager and can provide an important example that will stay with him or her for life. For this reason, and for your own spiritual well-being, make weekly Mass and regular Confession a priority in your family.
Sadly, many Catholics do not attend Mass every Sunday, missing out on the most vital, basic element in the life of faith. A lack of Commitment to Sunday Mass has many serious consequences. Failure to attend Sunday Mass disregards the third commandment to "Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy" (Exodus 20:8), as well as Jesus' command to "do this in remembrance of me" (Luke 22:19). These are not merely suggestions, but commandments that call us to "conscious, active, and fruitful participation" (CCC 1071) in Mass every Sunday.
When we do not attend Mass, we miss receiving Jesus in the Eucharist, which is "the source and summit" (CCC 1324)1 of our Catholic Faith. We miss out on the immeasurable grace given to us when we receive Holy Communion. At Mass, Jesus offers himself to us. God humbles himself and gathers our works, joys, and sufferings and transforms them. We are united to God's love in the most powerful way. What could possibly be more important?
While the reality of the Eucharist is hidden under the appearance of bread and wine, St. Thomas Aquinas reminds us in his traditional benediction hymn Tantum Ergo that "what is hidden to our senses, we grasp with the help of faith."
What can you do to make attendance at Sunday Mass more of a focal point of your family life? If you have not been attending Mass regularly, make a fresh start by going to Confession and Mass together, followed by a special meal at home or in a restaurant. If you already attend Mass every Sunday, think about what you can do to help your family get more out of the experience. Go online to find the Mass readings for that week at USCCB.org, and read them together at dinner or before bedtime. Encourage your child to share his or her thoughts about the homily or that week's Scripture readings.
Why is going to Confession important? What if! have not gone in a long time?
In the Sacrament of Reconciliation, we confess our sins to God through the priest, who has been given the authority to act in persona Christi, i.e., with the very authority of Christ himself (see CCC 1548). In the Sacrament of Reconciliation, the priest lends his face, hands, and voice to Christ so that we may have the powerful sensory experience of seeing and hearing, in the words of absolution, that our sins have been forgiven, and that our relationship with Christ and the Church has been restored.
By requiring us to confess any serious sins to a priest, the Church is simply fulfilling the task Jesus gave to the apostles to forgive sins (see John 20:21-23). Reassure your son or daughter that the seal of Confession is absolute. The Church binds the priest to absolute secrecy about any sins revealed to him in Confession even under the threat of imprisonment, physical injury, or death. A priest who breaks the sacramental seal incurs an automatic excommunication.
So, do not be afraid—you can return this week, even today, and experience for yourself how going to Confession will strengthen your own personal commitment to Christ. Again, consider your child's Confirmation preparation as an invitation for you to grow spiritually. If possible, make a regular habit of going to Confession as a family. This will help you grow closer
spiritually.
How should I respond if my child does not want to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation?
First, bear in mind that for most teens, going along with the faith of mom and clad until it is internalized in an almost unnoticed, gentle way, is a perfectly acceptable path to holiness. So there is no need to over-emphasize the fact that your child needs to choose the sacrament (and is free to reject it) on his or her own.
Telling a child, "You do not have to be confirmed," might lead him or her to have thoughts of rejecting Confirmation—or the Faith—that were not previously there. It might also lead your teenager to think Confirmation is "the sacrament of me choosing God." The reality is that every sacrament is about God's choice of us, because he loves us (see CCC 1).
But if your child becomes resistant to the idea of being confirmed for some reason, do not be alarmed. Be open to your son or daughter's questions about the Faith, as these can be instrumental in helping him or her to develop a genuine and mature faith. Many canonized saints wrestled with questions of faith in their youth; a few even rejected the Faith for a time. God will provide the grace for your son or daughter to find him if he or she genuinely seeks the truth. Your child's spiritual life matters deeply to God, and he will never cease to invite him or her to a life of grace.
What if I do not know how to answer a question?
In the midst of our increasingly secular culture, raising children in the Catholic Faith can he a daunting and intimidating task. If you feel inadequate in your own faith life, see your child's Confirmation as an opportunity for deeper conversion—to become who God has called you to be. Consider that God may be calling you to examine your own heart as you assist your son or daughter in preparation for this sacrament.
Do not feel that you need a theology degree or that you need a spotless past to fulfill your parental mission. St. Paul had a pretty messed-up past. He hunted down Christians to have them killed. Thanks to the mercy of God, he went on to write most of the New Testament. No one is as equipped as you are to be the spiritual leader of your child, simply by virtue of the fact that you are his or her parent. If you are authentic, your son or daughter will see your efforts and the importance you place on living the Faith—though imperfectly (as we all do)—and that will impact him or her more deeply than a lot of well-spoken theology.
That said, it is important to take your child's questions seriously, and you should know that it is relatively easy to discover what the Church teaches on any particular topic today. The Internet is a wonderful tool. This Parent's Guide will also help you use the Catechism of the Catholic Church and other sources to deepen your knowledge of the Faith, to answer questions you have, and to recommend ways you can guide your child to legitimate
sources of Catholic teaching.
Pray often for your children, and keep your own eyes fixed on Jesus. Do not be afraid if you are not perfect. As you research the answers you need for your son or daughters prayerfully ask God to enlighten the minds and hearts of your entire family. You are all on the same journey toward heaven, and it is important to slow down and help one another over the "bumps in the road."
If you are unable to resolve an issue, consider making an appointment with your pastor, a deacon, or your parish director of religious education (DRE) to discuss it.
How much should I push my teenager to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation if he or she does not want to?
Parenting teenagers requires constant discernment. Finding an effective balance between freedom and formation can he as delicate as surgery, and it varies from one child to the next. On the one hand, a too-forceful approach can create resentment about the Church in your child; on the other hand, a lack of strong parental direction can leave him or her aimless and vulnerable to the secular philosophies of the world.
The Church advises that a Confirmation candidate be well-prepared, in a state of grace, and properly disposed to receive the sacrament. Therefore, Confirmation must not be forced on a person who is rejecting it. That said, insisting that your child complete his or her sacramental formation is within your control. According to the law of the Church, parents are responsible for ensuring that their children "are properly instructed to receive the sacrament and come to it at the opportune time." This duty is one of the promises made by parents at their child's Baptism—to raise him or her in the Catholic Faith.
If your son or daughter continues to resist receiving Confirmation, try to be proactive. Arrange a meeting with the director of his or her sacramental preparation program, your pastor, another priest or deacon, or someone your child admires who is a Catholic role model. Follow the example of many faith-filled parents when faced with their children's ambivalence to the Faith: Pray for them consistently, offer support and encouragement, and have regular contact with your child's Confirmation sponsor and director of Confirmation preparation.
How do I pray with and for my child?
Praying for your children is a vital responsibility of a Christian parent. But, you may ask, "How do I pray for them?" There are as many ways to pray as there are people in the Church. Perhaps the best insight is that of St. Therese of Lisieux, who taught that prayer is "a simple look turned toward heaven (CCC 2558). Many traditional prayers and devotions can turn your heart toward heaven, both on your own and with your family. Consider starting a family prayer time featuring a specific devotion, such as the Rosary, a novena to your child's chosen patron saint, or regular Eucharistic Adoration,
Another beautiful and simple way to pray is called Lectio Divina, which means, "divine reading." It is how we pray the Scriptures. Encourage your family to sit in silence for a moment, take a deep breath, and then readjust a few paragraphs from one of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John), preferably the Mass reading of the day, which is easy to find online. Have them sit in silence for thirty seconds and then ask, "What is Jesus saying to you through this reading? What images or phrases jump out at you?" Give each family member a minute to share, and then close with a prayer from the heart, talking to Jesus about what was said. Pope Benedict XVI once reflected that lectio Divina would bring about "a new spiritual spring Time."
Pray
Make your own prayer life a reference point for your son or daughter. Frequently ask your child what he or she would like you to pray for. This gives your child a powerful example of an established prayer life, as well as the security of knowing that when you pray, you are praying especially for him or her.
How can I communicate with my son or daughter about Jesus, faith, and moral issues?
Listen. Whether your child has simple questions about the Faith or loud objections to it, you need to listen genuinely to his or her concerns before you can answer them effectively. The best doctors devote a lot of time to observing and listening to their patients before they make a diagnosis or prescribe a treatment; parents should do the same with their children's questions. As you may know from experience, conversations with teenagers can easily become impassioned. When this happens, neither side hears the other or feels heard.
Resolve to listen without interrupting, and allow your son or daughter to ask questions openly. Teens sometimes ask questions that may seem crude or silly to adults, but you should assume every question is sincere and that your child may not yet have learned how to express questions about particular issues in a mature way. Your gestures of respect will foster real conversation. Avoid conversation-ending statements such as, "That is just how it is," or, "You just have to believe it because that is what the Church teaches:'
Witness. As Pope Paul Vi observed, "Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers, and if he does listen to teachers, it is because they are witnesses." This is especially true between parents and children. Witnessing to God's work in your personal life is more powerful than an "academic" lesson. Share your own experiences in the life of faith. Be honest. Avoid presenting yourself as an expert, as a know-it-all, or as someone who never makes mistakes. Teenagers, despite their own often inconsistent behavior, are keen observers of others and will 'know whether you believe and live what you say.
Point to Christ and the Church. Remind your child that the Catholic Faith is not your personal opinion, but the divinely revealed truth. Encourage your son or daughter to examine this truth by directing him or her to Scripture, the Catechism and the lives of the saints.
Pray. Again, prayer is essential. Christ himself, the highest authority of all, attested to the power of prayer: "Ask, and it will be given you seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you" (Matthew 7:7). Jesus does not promise every prayer will be answered instantly or even quickly, nor does he say that every prayer will be answered in accordance with our hopes or expectations. We need to remember that God's ways are not our ways (see Isaiah 55:8-9), and that he answers every prayer in his time and in accord with his will.
Two of the most important things you can do to help your son or daughter prepare for the sacrament. are:
1) Be personally committed to prayer.
2) Impress upon your child, by word and example, the importance of participating in the sacramental life of the Church. The principal way we participate in the Church's sacramental life is through regular reception of the Eucharist and the
Sacrament of Reconciliation
How can I encourage my child to grow in faith at home?
Regular family prayer time is important. Simple family prayers, such as grace before meals and a weekly Rosary, can have a powerful impact on your child's faith formation. The witness of St. Monica, who spent many years praying for the conversion of her wayward son, Augustine (later St. Augustine), reveals the power of a parent's prayers and participation in the sacraments.
Sometimes, though, getting your child to do the "basics" can be challenging. One effective way to encourage your child's faith is to appeal to his or her natural desire for independence and social connection. Suggest that your son or daughter become involved in youth ministry; this will place him or her in a spiritually uplifting environment and help deepen his or her life of faith.
Your role as a parent in your child's faith formation does not end with his or her Confirmation. Your prayers and personal example can exert a powerful impact on your child for his or her whole life. Accept the challenge—and it is a challenge—to establish a family habit of discussing faith, morals, and spiritual growth.
Why do we need to attend Mass every week?
Having a parent who is personally committed to prayer and is participating in the sacramental life of the Church can have a profound effect on a teenager and can provide an important example that will stay with him or her for life. For this reason, and for your own spiritual well-being, make weekly Mass and regular Confession a priority in your family.
Sadly, many Catholics do not attend Mass every Sunday, missing out on the most vital, basic element in the life of faith. A lack of Commitment to Sunday Mass has many serious consequences. Failure to attend Sunday Mass disregards the third commandment to "Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy" (Exodus 20:8), as well as Jesus' command to "do this in remembrance of me" (Luke 22:19). These are not merely suggestions, but commandments that call us to "conscious, active, and fruitful participation" (CCC 1071) in Mass every Sunday.
When we do not attend Mass, we miss receiving Jesus in the Eucharist, which is "the source and summit" (CCC 1324)1 of our Catholic Faith. We miss out on the immeasurable grace given to us when we receive Holy Communion. At Mass, Jesus offers himself to us. God humbles himself and gathers our works, joys, and sufferings and transforms them. We are united to God's love in the most powerful way. What could possibly be more important?
While the reality of the Eucharist is hidden under the appearance of bread and wine, St. Thomas Aquinas reminds us in his traditional benediction hymn Tantum Ergo that "what is hidden to our senses, we grasp with the help of faith."
What can you do to make attendance at Sunday Mass more of a focal point of your family life? If you have not been attending Mass regularly, make a fresh start by going to Confession and Mass together, followed by a special meal at home or in a restaurant. If you already attend Mass every Sunday, think about what you can do to help your family get more out of the experience. Go online to find the Mass readings for that week at USCCB.org, and read them together at dinner or before bedtime. Encourage your child to share his or her thoughts about the homily or that week's Scripture readings.
Why is going to Confession important? What if! have not gone in a long time?
In the Sacrament of Reconciliation, we confess our sins to God through the priest, who has been given the authority to act in persona Christi, i.e., with the very authority of Christ himself (see CCC 1548). In the Sacrament of Reconciliation, the priest lends his face, hands, and voice to Christ so that we may have the powerful sensory experience of seeing and hearing, in the words of absolution, that our sins have been forgiven, and that our relationship with Christ and the Church has been restored.
By requiring us to confess any serious sins to a priest, the Church is simply fulfilling the task Jesus gave to the apostles to forgive sins (see John 20:21-23). Reassure your son or daughter that the seal of Confession is absolute. The Church binds the priest to absolute secrecy about any sins revealed to him in Confession even under the threat of imprisonment, physical injury, or death. A priest who breaks the sacramental seal incurs an automatic excommunication.
So, do not be afraid—you can return this week, even today, and experience for yourself how going to Confession will strengthen your own personal commitment to Christ. Again, consider your child's Confirmation preparation as an invitation for you to grow spiritually. If possible, make a regular habit of going to Confession as a family. This will help you grow closer
spiritually.
How should I respond if my child does not want to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation?
First, bear in mind that for most teens, going along with the faith of mom and clad until it is internalized in an almost unnoticed, gentle way, is a perfectly acceptable path to holiness. So there is no need to over-emphasize the fact that your child needs to choose the sacrament (and is free to reject it) on his or her own.
Telling a child, "You do not have to be confirmed," might lead him or her to have thoughts of rejecting Confirmation—or the Faith—that were not previously there. It might also lead your teenager to think Confirmation is "the sacrament of me choosing God." The reality is that every sacrament is about God's choice of us, because he loves us (see CCC 1).
But if your child becomes resistant to the idea of being confirmed for some reason, do not be alarmed. Be open to your son or daughter's questions about the Faith, as these can be instrumental in helping him or her to develop a genuine and mature faith. Many canonized saints wrestled with questions of faith in their youth; a few even rejected the Faith for a time. God will provide the grace for your son or daughter to find him if he or she genuinely seeks the truth. Your child's spiritual life matters deeply to God, and he will never cease to invite him or her to a life of grace.
What if I do not know how to answer a question?
In the midst of our increasingly secular culture, raising children in the Catholic Faith can he a daunting and intimidating task. If you feel inadequate in your own faith life, see your child's Confirmation as an opportunity for deeper conversion—to become who God has called you to be. Consider that God may be calling you to examine your own heart as you assist your son or daughter in preparation for this sacrament.
Do not feel that you need a theology degree or that you need a spotless past to fulfill your parental mission. St. Paul had a pretty messed-up past. He hunted down Christians to have them killed. Thanks to the mercy of God, he went on to write most of the New Testament. No one is as equipped as you are to be the spiritual leader of your child, simply by virtue of the fact that you are his or her parent. If you are authentic, your son or daughter will see your efforts and the importance you place on living the Faith—though imperfectly (as we all do)—and that will impact him or her more deeply than a lot of well-spoken theology.
That said, it is important to take your child's questions seriously, and you should know that it is relatively easy to discover what the Church teaches on any particular topic today. The Internet is a wonderful tool. This Parent's Guide will also help you use the Catechism of the Catholic Church and other sources to deepen your knowledge of the Faith, to answer questions you have, and to recommend ways you can guide your child to legitimate
sources of Catholic teaching.
Pray often for your children, and keep your own eyes fixed on Jesus. Do not be afraid if you are not perfect. As you research the answers you need for your son or daughters prayerfully ask God to enlighten the minds and hearts of your entire family. You are all on the same journey toward heaven, and it is important to slow down and help one another over the "bumps in the road."
If you are unable to resolve an issue, consider making an appointment with your pastor, a deacon, or your parish director of religious education (DRE) to discuss it.
How much should I push my teenager to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation if he or she does not want to?
Parenting teenagers requires constant discernment. Finding an effective balance between freedom and formation can he as delicate as surgery, and it varies from one child to the next. On the one hand, a too-forceful approach can create resentment about the Church in your child; on the other hand, a lack of strong parental direction can leave him or her aimless and vulnerable to the secular philosophies of the world.
The Church advises that a Confirmation candidate be well-prepared, in a state of grace, and properly disposed to receive the sacrament. Therefore, Confirmation must not be forced on a person who is rejecting it. That said, insisting that your child complete his or her sacramental formation is within your control. According to the law of the Church, parents are responsible for ensuring that their children "are properly instructed to receive the sacrament and come to it at the opportune time." This duty is one of the promises made by parents at their child's Baptism—to raise him or her in the Catholic Faith.
If your son or daughter continues to resist receiving Confirmation, try to be proactive. Arrange a meeting with the director of his or her sacramental preparation program, your pastor, another priest or deacon, or someone your child admires who is a Catholic role model. Follow the example of many faith-filled parents when faced with their children's ambivalence to the Faith: Pray for them consistently, offer support and encouragement, and have regular contact with your child's Confirmation sponsor and director of Confirmation preparation.
How do I pray with and for my child?
Praying for your children is a vital responsibility of a Christian parent. But, you may ask, "How do I pray for them?" There are as many ways to pray as there are people in the Church. Perhaps the best insight is that of St. Therese of Lisieux, who taught that prayer is "a simple look turned toward heaven (CCC 2558). Many traditional prayers and devotions can turn your heart toward heaven, both on your own and with your family. Consider starting a family prayer time featuring a specific devotion, such as the Rosary, a novena to your child's chosen patron saint, or regular Eucharistic Adoration,
Another beautiful and simple way to pray is called Lectio Divina, which means, "divine reading." It is how we pray the Scriptures. Encourage your family to sit in silence for a moment, take a deep breath, and then readjust a few paragraphs from one of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John), preferably the Mass reading of the day, which is easy to find online. Have them sit in silence for thirty seconds and then ask, "What is Jesus saying to you through this reading? What images or phrases jump out at you?" Give each family member a minute to share, and then close with a prayer from the heart, talking to Jesus about what was said. Pope Benedict XVI once reflected that lectio Divina would bring about "a new spiritual spring Time."
Pray
Make your own prayer life a reference point for your son or daughter. Frequently ask your child what he or she would like you to pray for. This gives your child a powerful example of an established prayer life, as well as the security of knowing that when you pray, you are praying especially for him or her.
How can I communicate with my son or daughter about Jesus, faith, and moral issues?
Listen. Whether your child has simple questions about the Faith or loud objections to it, you need to listen genuinely to his or her concerns before you can answer them effectively. The best doctors devote a lot of time to observing and listening to their patients before they make a diagnosis or prescribe a treatment; parents should do the same with their children's questions. As you may know from experience, conversations with teenagers can easily become impassioned. When this happens, neither side hears the other or feels heard.
Resolve to listen without interrupting, and allow your son or daughter to ask questions openly. Teens sometimes ask questions that may seem crude or silly to adults, but you should assume every question is sincere and that your child may not yet have learned how to express questions about particular issues in a mature way. Your gestures of respect will foster real conversation. Avoid conversation-ending statements such as, "That is just how it is," or, "You just have to believe it because that is what the Church teaches:'
Witness. As Pope Paul Vi observed, "Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers, and if he does listen to teachers, it is because they are witnesses." This is especially true between parents and children. Witnessing to God's work in your personal life is more powerful than an "academic" lesson. Share your own experiences in the life of faith. Be honest. Avoid presenting yourself as an expert, as a know-it-all, or as someone who never makes mistakes. Teenagers, despite their own often inconsistent behavior, are keen observers of others and will 'know whether you believe and live what you say.
Point to Christ and the Church. Remind your child that the Catholic Faith is not your personal opinion, but the divinely revealed truth. Encourage your son or daughter to examine this truth by directing him or her to Scripture, the Catechism and the lives of the saints.
Pray. Again, prayer is essential. Christ himself, the highest authority of all, attested to the power of prayer: "Ask, and it will be given you seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you" (Matthew 7:7). Jesus does not promise every prayer will be answered instantly or even quickly, nor does he say that every prayer will be answered in accordance with our hopes or expectations. We need to remember that God's ways are not our ways (see Isaiah 55:8-9), and that he answers every prayer in his time and in accord with his will.
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Faith Seeking Understanding
Consider furthering your own religious education during your son or daughter's sacramental preparation. Attend an adult faith-formation event or program at your parish or in your diocese, go on a retreat, or seek some solid reading material about Catholic life and faith. The Family that Eats Together: Studies have repeatedly shown that family meals matter. A 2011 CASA study showed that seventy-one percent of teens view catching up and spending time with family members as the greatest benefit to family dinnertime. If you are not sharing meals together as a family, think about how you can make this a part of your family routine. Your child more than likely will look forward to the time together.2 Take a Deep Breath The normal cycle of growing up makes it easy for parent-teen communication to devolve into confrontation. Whenever things get tense, take a deep breath, stay calm, and remind your son or daughter that you care about what he or she thinks. Teens are far more likely to open up when they feel respected. If, after your best efforts, confrontations persist, stay patient. Rome was not built in a day. |
Chapter 3: Choosing a Confirmation Sponsor
What is a Confirmation sponsor?
As part of his or her Confirmation preparation, your child will need to choose a sponsor. A Confirmation sponsor has three primary roles: (1) to assist the candidate in preparing for Confirmation, (2) to present the candidate for Confirmation, and (3) along with the parents, to help the confirmed person to live out his or her Christian life faithfully. Encourage your son or daughter to choose someone with a vibrant faith life who would serve as a good role model in the Faith. (An older sibling, godparent, favorite aunt or uncle, or other family friend could be a good choice if they understand and are able to fulfill all three roles listed above.)
What qualifications must a Confirmation sponsor have?
A sponsor must have the following qualifications: (1) be a Catholic who is at least sixteen years old,1° (2) have received the Sacrament of Confirmation, (3) be a person who leads "a life of faith in keeping with the function to be taken on,"" and (4) not be a parent of the candidate. in short, a sponsor should be a fully initiated Catholic who is faithful to Christ and his Church.
Talk It Out
A good sponsor can do wonders for your child's Confirmation preparation. Communicate with your son or daughter about this very important decision. As a parent, you have the role of ensuring that the prospective sponsor is a genuinely faithful Catholic suited to the position.
Can one of my child's godparents he his or her Confirmation Sponsor?
Yes. Because of the deep connection between the sacraments of Baptism and Confirmation, the Church highly recommends that one of the candidate's godparents he considered as a Confirmation sponsor.
What should we do with our newly confirmed son or daughter?
After your son or daughter has received the Sacrament of Confirmation, your role as your child's primary educator in the Faith should continue. By attending Mass every Sunday as a family, going to Confession regularly, and participating in parish activities, you will emphasize to your teen that Confirmation really is a fuller initiation into the Christian Faith and not some sort of "spiritual graduation" from faith-formation classes. Consider integrating faith-based activities into your family life to provide opportunities for everyone to deepen their spiritual lives:
Go on a family retreat.
Go on a family mission trip. Many parishes or diocesan offices can connect you with pre-planned missions that make the process easy.
Plan a family day of service at a local food bank, crisis pregnancy center, homeless shelter, or other community outreach. Afterward, discuss your experiences over a special family dinner.
As a family, commit to supporting a charity that is meaningful to you. Alternatively, have each family member choose a different charity.
Discuss the Sunday Mass readings in advance as a family, so you can prepare to participate fully in the liturgy. The
Mass readings are available at USCCB.org.
Apps for That
In your mobile app store, search the word "Catholic" to find a variety of apps that can enrich the life of faith. There are apps for Catholic teaching, prayer, Catholic news biographies of saints, and more.
What is a Confirmation sponsor?
As part of his or her Confirmation preparation, your child will need to choose a sponsor. A Confirmation sponsor has three primary roles: (1) to assist the candidate in preparing for Confirmation, (2) to present the candidate for Confirmation, and (3) along with the parents, to help the confirmed person to live out his or her Christian life faithfully. Encourage your son or daughter to choose someone with a vibrant faith life who would serve as a good role model in the Faith. (An older sibling, godparent, favorite aunt or uncle, or other family friend could be a good choice if they understand and are able to fulfill all three roles listed above.)
What qualifications must a Confirmation sponsor have?
A sponsor must have the following qualifications: (1) be a Catholic who is at least sixteen years old,1° (2) have received the Sacrament of Confirmation, (3) be a person who leads "a life of faith in keeping with the function to be taken on,"" and (4) not be a parent of the candidate. in short, a sponsor should be a fully initiated Catholic who is faithful to Christ and his Church.
Talk It Out
A good sponsor can do wonders for your child's Confirmation preparation. Communicate with your son or daughter about this very important decision. As a parent, you have the role of ensuring that the prospective sponsor is a genuinely faithful Catholic suited to the position.
Can one of my child's godparents he his or her Confirmation Sponsor?
Yes. Because of the deep connection between the sacraments of Baptism and Confirmation, the Church highly recommends that one of the candidate's godparents he considered as a Confirmation sponsor.
What should we do with our newly confirmed son or daughter?
After your son or daughter has received the Sacrament of Confirmation, your role as your child's primary educator in the Faith should continue. By attending Mass every Sunday as a family, going to Confession regularly, and participating in parish activities, you will emphasize to your teen that Confirmation really is a fuller initiation into the Christian Faith and not some sort of "spiritual graduation" from faith-formation classes. Consider integrating faith-based activities into your family life to provide opportunities for everyone to deepen their spiritual lives:
Go on a family retreat.
Go on a family mission trip. Many parishes or diocesan offices can connect you with pre-planned missions that make the process easy.
Plan a family day of service at a local food bank, crisis pregnancy center, homeless shelter, or other community outreach. Afterward, discuss your experiences over a special family dinner.
As a family, commit to supporting a charity that is meaningful to you. Alternatively, have each family member choose a different charity.
Discuss the Sunday Mass readings in advance as a family, so you can prepare to participate fully in the liturgy. The
Mass readings are available at USCCB.org.
Apps for That
In your mobile app store, search the word "Catholic" to find a variety of apps that can enrich the life of faith. There are apps for Catholic teaching, prayer, Catholic news biographies of saints, and more.
Part 2: Chosen Conversation Starters
Part 2: Chosen Conversation Starters
Your Child's Chosen journey
In the Chosen program, the three phases of the catechumenate (sacramental preparation) are expressed in the organization and structure of the program, following this classic Scripture passage: 'Jesus said to him, ci am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but by me'" (John 14:6). in Chosen, we discover that Jesus is
Following the celebration of the sacrament is a fourth phase, called mystagogv. In this phase, the newly initiated Christian is immersed in the life of the Christian community. Once your child has been confirmed, encourage him or her to seek out and get involved in a parish-based youth group in order to continue his or her spiritual journey.
Supporting and Encouraging Your Child
This section of the Parent's Guide includes prayers, reflections, and conversation starters that you can use in a variety of ways, on your own or with your child, to support him or her on this journey of faith.
Parent's Prayer: This is a special prayer for each phase of the program. You may pray it just once at the start of each new phase or pray it daily throughout that phase of the program.
Parent's Reflection: This reflection touches upon general themes and topics that your child will he learning in this phase of the program. Some parents use this as a tool to help them consider where they are on their own faith journey. Perhaps as your child grows in faith, you will find yourself drawing closer to Christ and the Church as well!
Conversation Starters: As a parent, your presence and involvement in your children's activities is vital. just as you would be there for games or dance recitals, you should also be there with your child throughout his or her journey towardConfirmation—not just for the "big day."
The "Conversation Starters" on the following pages provide launching pads for fruitful discussion between you and your child. Use them as is, or put them into your own words if you prefer. We suggest you read the lesson overview, become familiar with the questions you plan to ask, and prepare your own answers before you talk to your child. This will make the conversation feel more natural—reading from the book during your time together might turn your teen off.
Your goal should be to draw out your teen's thoughts and feelings about what he or she is learning and experiencing in the program. Be sure to listen and ask follow-up questions.
If you find yourself stumped by a question and need help locating the answer, consult the Catechism of the Catholic Church or your parish priest. Note: Parent's instructions and answers to some of the questions are in red.
In addition to the "Conversation Starter" questions, here are some more general questions you can ask:
Your Child's Chosen journey
In the Chosen program, the three phases of the catechumenate (sacramental preparation) are expressed in the organization and structure of the program, following this classic Scripture passage: 'Jesus said to him, ci am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but by me'" (John 14:6). in Chosen, we discover that Jesus is
- The Way (pre-catechumenate, or "discovering" the Faith)
- The Truth (catechumenate, or "learning" the Faith)
- The Life (purification and enlightenment, or "living" the Faith)
Following the celebration of the sacrament is a fourth phase, called mystagogv. In this phase, the newly initiated Christian is immersed in the life of the Christian community. Once your child has been confirmed, encourage him or her to seek out and get involved in a parish-based youth group in order to continue his or her spiritual journey.
Supporting and Encouraging Your Child
This section of the Parent's Guide includes prayers, reflections, and conversation starters that you can use in a variety of ways, on your own or with your child, to support him or her on this journey of faith.
Parent's Prayer: This is a special prayer for each phase of the program. You may pray it just once at the start of each new phase or pray it daily throughout that phase of the program.
Parent's Reflection: This reflection touches upon general themes and topics that your child will he learning in this phase of the program. Some parents use this as a tool to help them consider where they are on their own faith journey. Perhaps as your child grows in faith, you will find yourself drawing closer to Christ and the Church as well!
Conversation Starters: As a parent, your presence and involvement in your children's activities is vital. just as you would be there for games or dance recitals, you should also be there with your child throughout his or her journey towardConfirmation—not just for the "big day."
The "Conversation Starters" on the following pages provide launching pads for fruitful discussion between you and your child. Use them as is, or put them into your own words if you prefer. We suggest you read the lesson overview, become familiar with the questions you plan to ask, and prepare your own answers before you talk to your child. This will make the conversation feel more natural—reading from the book during your time together might turn your teen off.
Your goal should be to draw out your teen's thoughts and feelings about what he or she is learning and experiencing in the program. Be sure to listen and ask follow-up questions.
If you find yourself stumped by a question and need help locating the answer, consult the Catechism of the Catholic Church or your parish priest. Note: Parent's instructions and answers to some of the questions are in red.
In addition to the "Conversation Starter" questions, here are some more general questions you can ask:
- What is your "Challenge of the Week"? (Candidates pick one of three activities related to that week's lesson.)
- Who was on the video this week? What was the best part?
- Who was the "Hero of the Week" (the featured saint? What about. this saint's life "fit" this week's theme?
"The Way" - On the Road to Discovering Christ
Parent's Prayer
Lord Jesus, sometimes my heart is restless, and I am distracted by worldly desires and cares. When I pursue things that. are contrary to your will for my life, I feel unsatisfied. I am restless because I have not turned to you wholeheartedly. Help me to know that you are the source and fulfillment of my desires and the healer of my brokenness. Empower me, Jesus, to be a living witness to you, especially with my child, during this important phase on the journey toward the Sacrament of Confirmation. May my heart, being more fully united with you, be a beacon of your love to all the people in my life. Amen.
Parent's Reflection
"What do you want?" What an awkward and invasive conversation starter. Imagine that a stranger, without preamble, looked at you and asked, "What do you want?" What if the tone indicated this question was not simply about your immediate desires, but was an audacious inquiry into your deepest, most private longings?
In John's Gospel, Jesus' first words to his disciples embody this very question: "What are you looking for?" As you can imagine, the disciples do not know how to answer. So they answer with another question: "Rabbi, where are you staying?" Jesus replies, "Come and see."
Three lines of conversation have never been more loaded. The disciples clearly do not even know how to express the longing of their hearts. They are not seeking something as much as someone. Like us, though, they just cannot identify the source of their restlessness.
All of us have restless hearts. In this journey toward Confirmation, both you and your child are being called to follow Jesus and to discover more deeply the answer to the question, "What do you want?" This first phase of Chosen ("The Way") will break down barriers to belief and then introduce the basic gospel message. Your son or daughter will come see how Christ, through his Church, fulfills the deepest longings of our hearts.
One way you can help this process along is to support and encourage the relationship between your child and his or her Confirmation sponsor. Your teen's sponsor will facilitate specific activities and discussion questions as the program progresses. You also should share your personal experience of being Catholic, searching for happiness, and seeking God. Your personal testimony is one of the most effective ways to bring about genuine dialogue with your child.
Effective Talking
Genuine communication and conversation with teens can be a challenge. Above all, remember that teens crave recognition of their young adulthood Do not push too hard if you can avoid it. Listen first, then share your own experience, point beyond yourself to Jesus, and pray consistently.
Lesson One: Why Am I Here
Lesson 1 Overview
"Why am I here?" Depending on the student., this question may he answered several different ways. Naturally, most teens attend this class to prepare for the Sacrament of Confirmation, as their final Sacrament of Initiation into the Catholic Faith. Some teens approach this sacrament eagerly; others are compelled by their parents, with varying degrees of willingness, and may be looking forward to "graduating" from religious education. Chosen has been developed to meet the needs of both types of students.
The question posed in the title of this introductory lesson also hints at its primary purpose: to convey that the journey of faith in general. (and thus, of Confirmation preparation in particular) is not just something we do "on the side" of real life, but that it has everything to do with discovering the very meaning of life itself and learning how to live it to the full.
To the degree that you, as a parent, are both welcoming and respectful of this process of discovery (asking the Holy Spirit to speak to and soften the heart of your son or daughter with the truth of the gospel), you have an opportunity to be part of a profound transformation in the life of your teen.
A crucial part of this process of transformation is for your teen to discover the communal aspect of Christian life and to experience your patience, willingness to listen, and true concern for him or her. This is all a part of "pre-evangelization," engaging the audience "where they are" in order to prepare them for true "evangelization'—that is, bringing them to where God wants them to be.
Conversation Starters
Why do you think this program is called Chosen? What does being chosen have to do with Confirmation?
Lesson 1 Overview
"Why am I here?" Depending on the student., this question may he answered several different ways. Naturally, most teens attend this class to prepare for the Sacrament of Confirmation, as their final Sacrament of Initiation into the Catholic Faith. Some teens approach this sacrament eagerly; others are compelled by their parents, with varying degrees of willingness, and may be looking forward to "graduating" from religious education. Chosen has been developed to meet the needs of both types of students.
The question posed in the title of this introductory lesson also hints at its primary purpose: to convey that the journey of faith in general. (and thus, of Confirmation preparation in particular) is not just something we do "on the side" of real life, but that it has everything to do with discovering the very meaning of life itself and learning how to live it to the full.
To the degree that you, as a parent, are both welcoming and respectful of this process of discovery (asking the Holy Spirit to speak to and soften the heart of your son or daughter with the truth of the gospel), you have an opportunity to be part of a profound transformation in the life of your teen.
A crucial part of this process of transformation is for your teen to discover the communal aspect of Christian life and to experience your patience, willingness to listen, and true concern for him or her. This is all a part of "pre-evangelization," engaging the audience "where they are" in order to prepare them for true "evangelization'—that is, bringing them to where God wants them to be.
Conversation Starters
Why do you think this program is called Chosen? What does being chosen have to do with Confirmation?
- What were some of the personal goals that came up in class today? What were yours?
- Do you have a "Candidate Commitment" form I need to sign? Let's look at it now.
Lesson 2: “What Makes Me Happy?” (Discovering God as the Source)
Lesson 2 Overview
The purpose of this lesson is to consider the possibility that everything we need in life is ultimately found in God. Happiness, love, peace, purpose, and security are all qualities that are found in the lives of those who live according to the "master plan."
As young Catholic men and women, Confirmation candidates are on a quest for identity and. personal significance. As the influence of their peers increases, they continue to look to the example of their parents to guide them. However, this group is extremely sensitive to any perceived hypocrisy or inconsistency. Therefore, finding and holding up authentic models of faith (and acknowledging the consequences of following the wrong role models) is of paramount importance.
Conversation Starters
Not So Fast
If you want to make a gesture of your serious commitment to helping your son or daughter prepare for Confirmation, consider fasting once a week between now and the ceremony. Fasting is the small sacrifice of eating more simply or eating less food than usual for a period of time. It is an ancient tradition seen as a type of solidarity with the sacrifice of Christ on the cross and a way to practice self-denial.
Lesson 2 Overview
The purpose of this lesson is to consider the possibility that everything we need in life is ultimately found in God. Happiness, love, peace, purpose, and security are all qualities that are found in the lives of those who live according to the "master plan."
As young Catholic men and women, Confirmation candidates are on a quest for identity and. personal significance. As the influence of their peers increases, they continue to look to the example of their parents to guide them. However, this group is extremely sensitive to any perceived hypocrisy or inconsistency. Therefore, finding and holding up authentic models of faith (and acknowledging the consequences of following the wrong role models) is of paramount importance.
Conversation Starters
- Who is the happiest person you know?
- Why do you think he or she is so happy?
- Do you think it is possible to know God personally?
- Have you ever fell dose to God? Tell me about it.
Not So Fast
If you want to make a gesture of your serious commitment to helping your son or daughter prepare for Confirmation, consider fasting once a week between now and the ceremony. Fasting is the small sacrifice of eating more simply or eating less food than usual for a period of time. It is an ancient tradition seen as a type of solidarity with the sacrifice of Christ on the cross and a way to practice self-denial.
Lesson 3: “What’s Your Story, God?” (A Look At Salvation History)
Lesson 3 Overview
The purpose of this lesson is to introduce your teen to an overview of salvation history. We begin the story by addressing the question, "How could a good God allow so much suffering and evil.?" We explore the goodness of God's creation, how sin and. evil entered the world., and God's redemptive plan, (the "plot" of salvation history), which centered in the person and work of Christ and the establishment of the Church.
With this lesson, we move from "pre-evangelization" to authentic "evangelization," introducing students to the kerygma,—the proclamation of the gospel message that invites a response.
Conversation Starters
Lesson 3 Overview
The purpose of this lesson is to introduce your teen to an overview of salvation history. We begin the story by addressing the question, "How could a good God allow so much suffering and evil.?" We explore the goodness of God's creation, how sin and. evil entered the world., and God's redemptive plan, (the "plot" of salvation history), which centered in the person and work of Christ and the establishment of the Church.
With this lesson, we move from "pre-evangelization" to authentic "evangelization," introducing students to the kerygma,—the proclamation of the gospel message that invites a response.
Conversation Starters
- What is "salvation history"? (It is the story of God's plan of redeeming love, as revealed through Scripture and his Church.)
- If you could have lived at any time in salvation history, who would you want to meet. and why?
- How is the human family like the Trinity? (God created human families to reflect [in an imperfect but real way] the perfect love of the Blessed Trinity. The Holy Spirit proceeds" from the love of the Father and the Son. Similarly, in the total self-giving of married love, husbands and wives reflect the life-giving love of God in the procreation of their children, thus expressing the "communion of persons" [the family] that images the communion of persons" of the Blessed Trinity.)