Congratulations
Congratulation on your engagement. Our warmest wishes and prayers for you. We urge you to consider the sacredness of marriage. Besides being a very meaningful social occasion for you and your families, it is a profoundly sacred reality for you are receiving a sacrament, the sacrament of marriage. By your marriage in the Church, you are making a public statement of your faith, and your love and fidelity not only to each other but also to Christ and His Church. Please take the time to spiritually prepare yourself for living out the sacrament of Marriage. Finally, the information below should answer some of your questions about Marriage, You, and St. John of God.
How Do I Arrange For a Marriage at St. John of God?
1) In order to book or arrange for a Parish at Saint John of God it is assumed that either the bride or the groom is a registered member of the Parish. If you are not a member of the Parish, and want to get married here, you will need a letter of permission from the pastor of the bride or the groom.
2) A wedding date cannot be secured over the phone. Nor can it be done by anyone but the couple themself. It can only be done in a meeting with the Pastor, Fr. Babiczuk. Before you can schedule the appoint you must obtain your sacramental records (baptism & confirmation) for both parties, and bring them with you to that initial meeting. This is not necessary if you were baptized at St. John of God since the records are here. Baptism certificates must be current, within at least six months. Once you have secured your records please call our secretary (Lydia Costa) to set up an appointment with Fr. Babiczuk. Both parties must be present for this initial meeting.
3) According to Diocesan regulations stipulate that a couple should contact their parish at least 8 months before the requested wedding date. It is best to contact the Parish as soon as you are engaged to get a date for the wedding.
4) Wedding are not done after 2:00pm on Saturday because of the 4:00pm vigil Mass.
2) A wedding date cannot be secured over the phone. Nor can it be done by anyone but the couple themself. It can only be done in a meeting with the Pastor, Fr. Babiczuk. Before you can schedule the appoint you must obtain your sacramental records (baptism & confirmation) for both parties, and bring them with you to that initial meeting. This is not necessary if you were baptized at St. John of God since the records are here. Baptism certificates must be current, within at least six months. Once you have secured your records please call our secretary (Lydia Costa) to set up an appointment with Fr. Babiczuk. Both parties must be present for this initial meeting.
3) According to Diocesan regulations stipulate that a couple should contact their parish at least 8 months before the requested wedding date. It is best to contact the Parish as soon as you are engaged to get a date for the wedding.
4) Wedding are not done after 2:00pm on Saturday because of the 4:00pm vigil Mass.
Marriage Preparation & Focus
The diocese requires that couples getting married participate in Marriage Preparation to help them prepare not for the ceremony, but for a life time together. Marriage Preparation is conducted by the Religious Education Office of the Diocese of Fall River. From their web site you can get information about the Marriage Preparation Program, dates of the program, and even register on-line. Click here for a link to the page. You can also get information about Engaged Encounter which is a weekend retreat for Marriage Preparation.
In addition to the Marriage Preparation Program the diocese also required that a couple preparing for marriage participate in the FOCCUS Marriage Survey. Deacon Faria conducts the FOCCUS marriage Survey. Please see him after Mass or email him to make arrangements. His parish email address is [email protected]. The purpose of FOCCUS is to examine strengths and weaknesses in a couple's relationship and communication skills. The FOCCUS survey usually takes 1 hour to fill out. The answers are send out to be analyzed, and then you will meet with Deacon Faria again to discuss them.
In addition to the Marriage Preparation Program the diocese also required that a couple preparing for marriage participate in the FOCCUS Marriage Survey. Deacon Faria conducts the FOCCUS marriage Survey. Please see him after Mass or email him to make arrangements. His parish email address is [email protected]. The purpose of FOCCUS is to examine strengths and weaknesses in a couple's relationship and communication skills. The FOCCUS survey usually takes 1 hour to fill out. The answers are send out to be analyzed, and then you will meet with Deacon Faria again to discuss them.
Readings for the Celebration of Marriage
There are a number of places on the web where you can access the readings for the celebration of marriage. The US Conference of Catholic Bishops has a site called For Your Marriage which contains the readings along with other helpful information in planning a wedding. This site is very useful in planning a Catholic Wedding. It contains a wealth of information in addition to the readings.
This site does not contain petitions or General Intercessions. For petitions click here.
In choosing your readings it is best to read all of them through, and then discuss the ones that you like as a couple. Choose one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament, and a gospel. The psalm is always sung at a wedding, therefore discuss the psalm with your singer/organist. Here at Saint John of God the psalm should always be a psalm, and not a song. A song which is a psalm is acceptable.
Finally, your readers should get a copy of their readings before the rehearsal, and should be present at the rehearsal to practice.
This site does not contain petitions or General Intercessions. For petitions click here.
In choosing your readings it is best to read all of them through, and then discuss the ones that you like as a couple. Choose one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament, and a gospel. The psalm is always sung at a wedding, therefore discuss the psalm with your singer/organist. Here at Saint John of God the psalm should always be a psalm, and not a song. A song which is a psalm is acceptable.
Finally, your readers should get a copy of their readings before the rehearsal, and should be present at the rehearsal to practice.
Music
As soon as you secure a wedding date from the Parish, you should make arrangements for music for your wedding. Mr. Toby Monte who places at the 10:30am Mass and directs the choir is available to provide music for your wedding. Speak with him before or after the 10:30am Mass, or get his phone number from the Parish Office or Fr. Fred to call him directly.
Please note that only Church or liturgical music is allowed during a wedding celebration. Secular music heard on the radio is fine for your car, but not appropriate for a wedding celebration in Church.
You are free to choose another musician to provide music for your wedding. Since only liturgical music is permitted in a wedding, it is best to choose a musician who is currently playing or has played in a Catholic Church. In this way they are familiar with Catholic Liturgical Music. If you do want to have a musician other than Toby Monte please speak with Fr. Babiczuk about this. Also Mr. Monte is quite familiar with other musicians in the area. If you want to have instrument other than just the organ speak to him about this as well.
Please note that only Church or liturgical music is allowed during a wedding celebration. Secular music heard on the radio is fine for your car, but not appropriate for a wedding celebration in Church.
You are free to choose another musician to provide music for your wedding. Since only liturgical music is permitted in a wedding, it is best to choose a musician who is currently playing or has played in a Catholic Church. In this way they are familiar with Catholic Liturgical Music. If you do want to have a musician other than Toby Monte please speak with Fr. Babiczuk about this. Also Mr. Monte is quite familiar with other musicians in the area. If you want to have instrument other than just the organ speak to him about this as well.
Flowers & Decorations
It is the usual custom that the couple provide two medium size flower arrangements for the altar at the time of their wedding. It is also expected that the flowers remain in the Church after the wedding as a decoration for the weekend Masses. In this way the flowers are an offering to the Lord. Any other type of floral arrangements should be discusses with the pastor prior to contacting the florist. Tape or tacks can not be used on the pews to secure floral arrangements since they will leave a permanent mark on the wood. For reasons of safety we do not allow an aisle runner. If you want to use a Unity Candle discuss this with the Parish priest prior to purchasing one.
The throwing of rice, birdseed, rose petals, bubbles, and/or any confetti-like object is not allowed within the Church building or outside on the grounds due to the very serious problem of safety and cleaning.
The throwing of rice, birdseed, rose petals, bubbles, and/or any confetti-like object is not allowed within the Church building or outside on the grounds due to the very serious problem of safety and cleaning.
Photographers & Videotaping
The photographers as a matter of courtesy should speak with the celebrant before the liturgy begins. The photographers are welcome to take pictures throughout the celebration as long as the celebration is not disrupted in any way. In no case is the photographer or video person allowed within the sanctuary of the Church.
Wedding Rehersal
1. Your wedding rehearsal should be scheduled when you meet with the parish priest. Generally, the rehearsal is scheduled an evening or two before the actual wedding date. Wedding rehearsals are scheduled for 30 minutes. It is important to be on time.
2. Those who must attend the rehearsal are: the bride and groom; best man and maid of honor; the bridesmaids; the ushers; ring bearers; flower girls; and the parents of the couple. In addition, those who are doing the readings and/or bringing up the gifts for the celebration should attend as will. In a word, anybody who will be formally seated or participating in any way should be present for the rehearsal.
3. Please remember that a valid marriage license is to be given to the parish priest or to the parish office well in advance of the wedding rehearsal.
4. Even though it is traditional a wedding rehearsal is not the best time to celebrate the sacrament of Penance. It is recommended that the bride and groom go the Saturday before the wedding, or at some other time.
2. Those who must attend the rehearsal are: the bride and groom; best man and maid of honor; the bridesmaids; the ushers; ring bearers; flower girls; and the parents of the couple. In addition, those who are doing the readings and/or bringing up the gifts for the celebration should attend as will. In a word, anybody who will be formally seated or participating in any way should be present for the rehearsal.
3. Please remember that a valid marriage license is to be given to the parish priest or to the parish office well in advance of the wedding rehearsal.
4. Even though it is traditional a wedding rehearsal is not the best time to celebrate the sacrament of Penance. It is recommended that the bride and groom go the Saturday before the wedding, or at some other time.
Offering to the Church
1. It is customary to make an offering to the Church on the occasion of a marriage (the usual offering is a donation of $100). There are separate fees for musicians and altar servers. If the couple wishes, a donation may also be made to the officiating priest or deacon. This should be clearly marked as being separate from the donation to the Church.
Wedding Reception
Please do not assume that the parish priest will be able to attend your wedding reception. Being the only priest in the parish, this is usually not possible because of the parish schedule as well as other commitments. Your understanding in this regard is most appreciated. In most cases it is possible for Father to go to the reception to give the blessing.
Order of Celebrating Matrimony Without Mass
There are several reasons why a Catholic wedding would take place without a Mass: when a Catholic marries a baptized non-Catholic Christian (although such couples can request permission from the bishop to hold their wedding within Mass); when a significant number of wedding guests are not Catholic; or when a priest is not available. Either a priest or a deacon can use the Order of Celebrating Matrimony without Mass. Interchurch couples (a Catholic and a baptized Christian) might wish to talk with the priest or deacon about the participation of clergy from the non-Catholic party’s church. If the couple wishes to hold their wedding at the non-Catholic’s church, they need to receive permission from the bishop to do so in order for the marriage to be valid.
Marriage without a Mass is a valid Catholic wedding. It is also still a sacrament because the bride and groom are both baptized. The main difference is that there is no Liturgy of the Eucharist. The rite of Marriage outside of Mass is found below. It is adapted from the US Bishop's web site For Your Marriage.
There are several reasons why a Catholic wedding would take place without a Mass: when a Catholic marries a baptized non-Catholic Christian (although such couples can request permission from the bishop to hold their wedding within Mass); when a significant number of wedding guests are not Catholic; or when a priest is not available. Either a priest or a deacon can use the Order of Celebrating Matrimony without Mass. Interchurch couples (a Catholic and a baptized Christian) might wish to talk with the priest or deacon about the participation of clergy from the non-Catholic party’s church. If the couple wishes to hold their wedding at the non-Catholic’s church, they need to receive permission from the bishop to do so in order for the marriage to be valid.
Marriage without a Mass is a valid Catholic wedding. It is also still a sacrament because the bride and groom are both baptized. The main difference is that there is no Liturgy of the Eucharist. The rite of Marriage outside of Mass is found below. It is adapted from the US Bishop's web site For Your Marriage.
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